We are all very busy, there is not doubt about it. Some of us enjoy the busy lifestyle and others don’t like it so much. I am starting to see a new trend that comes along with our busyness, that is becoming the new “norm” in our world, and I don’t think it is a good thing. I think we all want to do better!
Our busyness is turning us into not-so-nice people. I know we don’t have any intention of being unpleasant, but when we are busy, all we can do is focus on our world. People outside of that world can be treated poorly and we are too busy to even notice. To top it off, we are teaching our next generation that this is normal.
I want us to think about a few scenarios, and I want you to know that I am pulling right out of the Jen Regan play book. Most of these things I have found myself doing in the midst of my busy life, and they simply feel wrong.
I have been harsh to someone because they mildly inconvenienced me. I drop off my dry cleaning once a week early in the morning so that I can pick it up that evening. I get off of work at 5:00pm and that is when my dry cleaning is scheduled to be ready for pick-up. One night, the delivery person was running late to the dry cleaner and my clothes were not there. I became very frustrated and took it out on the very sweet young lady on the other side of the counter. You might, say “Jen, you had every right to be mad!” Maybe I did, but that is not the type of person I want to be. I want to be patient, just as I want people to be patient with me when I mess up. I looked back on that night and I was trying to fit too many things into a short amount of time. I did not leave any room for inconvenience, so when it hit, I blew up. I want to do better!
I have rushed around the grocery store with a scowl on my face, not caring who I walked in front of to get to the toilet paper isle. Again, I’m very busy and I have a number of things that I need to get done on my way home from work. I’m too busy to let the person walking in with me, go in front of me, so I just barge my way in first. I am in my own world, needing to get in and get out, that I don’t even realize the people I walk in front of. Then there is the race to the check-out line. I have to tell you, I am kind of embarrassed to admit this stuff, but I have done it, all when I am simply too busy.
I witness on a daily basis a driver whip across three lanes of traffic, almost causing an accident, because they forgot they needed to run by the Pharmacy on the way home. When I am driving, my brain is thinking about a million things. I have driven past my destination numerous times because my mind was somewhere else. Unfortunately, many people remember at the last-minute, swerve across traffic and put many other people in danger in the process. It is not polite at all.
I know this is not my normal positive post, but we need to think about the people that we really want to be. We need to think about the next generation that we are teaching through our example. I think we want to be the smiling, loving, generous people in our world, and busyness is keeping us from living that out many times.
I encourage all of us to think about the kind of person we want to be, slow life down, and be intentional about being that kind of person. I know this post has hit home for me and I need to make some changes. I hope you will join me, too. We all want our world to be a better place, so let’s start with ourselves.
Here’s to slowing down, opening the door for someone else, making their day, and making our day in return.