Settling Is No Fun

In preparation for launching my Facebook Group, I read the book Tribes by Seth Goden. In it he stated that “Settling is not fun.”1 Which I agree with whole heartedly. Just a few sentences later, he mentions “competing priorities” as a possible culprit for settling. Hmmm, that’s an interesting topic to dive into! How can we deal with competing priorities, especially when they are both high on our priority list?

Back in October, I changed up my workout routine. I started at a new gym, with new class options. I started out going to one class a week, desperately wanted to add more, but I suddenly found two high priority items pulling at me for my time and attention. Both of them were part of what I consider to be my Heart’s BEST Work. My family and my self care. I did not want to settle, but how was I going to work through these competing top priorities?

The first thing I did was review my priorities and how they were reflected on my calendar. I knew what was most important to me in life, so I needed to make sure those most important things were really getting my time and attention, not other less important things.

Second, since I had to find a way to juggle these two really important things, I took my time to make decisions. I was tempted to give up quickly and settle with the reality that one night at the gym was just going to have to be enough. I just could not settle for that. 2018 was a very “blah” year for me with regards to my physical health. I wanted new and better for 2019. The answers came by thinking things through over time and with determination.

Next, I had to be open to changing old routines. I love routines! Once I find something that works, I stick with it FOREVER (I wish)! As I looked at my options to fit in these most important things, I initially did not want to budge on changing up some of my well formed routines. It actually took the gentle nudge/suggestion of someone at the gym to make me even consider changing things up. I did and guess what, I have a new routine!

I decided to reduce my time with one priority in order to add it to another. I cherish the time I have at home with my husband and puppy, but something had to give in order for me to find time to add in my desired gym time. Neglecting my family was not an option, but finding a compromise was. Now, I workout on Saturday mornings when John (and Pebbles) love to sleep in. They hardly know I am gone. Some nights John and I eat dinner a little later, and the nights I workout, we have less “hang out” time. John does not love waiting at times, but he truly does support me, so we have found a compromise. Now my time is shared among these two priorities.

We have to guard and prioritize our Heart’s BEST Work, but know that even when priorities compete for our time, there is a way to come out the other side and not settle.

1 S. Godin, Tribes: We Need You To Lead Us. (Portfolio/Pengiun 2008), 78

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