How often in your day do you think “I should be doing…”? How many times, when you take a moment to sit down, do you feel guilty and think of all of the things you “should” be doing? How often do you think back on your day and feel like you “should have done something, but didn’t”? When we pay attention, our lives are filled with “I shoulds”. They can torment and bring us down. It’s time to lovingly (or maybe even a little forcefully) put the “I shoulds” in their place.
When you find yourself unsettled in life, what “I shoulds” are responsible?
- There are many unhealthy “I shoulds”.
- There are some “I shoulds” that do need to get your attention because they are the right things for your life.
How do you know the difference?
It all comes down to what is most important to you. Defining what is most important to you at this stage in your life will help you differentiate between the things that you hold dear and all of the other clutter that tries to intrude into your life. Defining what is most important to you is one of the greatest exercises and investments of time you can partake in. It will shape your life into exactly what you want it to be.
I have a simple resource that is designed to help you do exactly that! I have used it in my Life Planning Classes, and I just recently had one of my former students pull his out to share with his co-workers. He shared how this tool was life changing for him and how it has shaped his life into what he wants it to be.
Once you have defined what is most important to you, you can compare your “I shoulds” to your list of “most important things”.
- If your “I should” is on your list of most important things, it should get your attention. You should find a way to prioritize it in your life.
- If your “I should” is not on your list of most important things, you can lovingly say “no” to it, knowing that spending time on it would pull you away from what is most important.
No longer allow the “I shoulds” to torment you or bring you down. Say “YES” to what is most important to you, and lovingly say “NO” to the rest.
Here’s to leaving guilt behind, knowing we are living the life we desire!
- Ask yourself: When you find yourself unsettled in life, what “I shoulds” are responsible?
- Download: Live the Life You Desire – Define What Is Most Important To You and start to work on your list of most important things.
- Improve the lives of others: If you have someone in your life who could benefit from the free resource, please pass it on to them! We are all in this together!