There are few feelings worse than feeling STUCK. It brings along with it the feeling of hopelessness, fear, and anxiety, which drain what little bit of energy we have left. It is a horrible place to be. When we feel STUCK, we look around and it seems like there is no way out, no life-preserver, no helping hand.
But there is hope! There are people and resources all around us to help us get UN-STUCK. The question is, are we willing to do what it takes to reach out for that helping hand?
This week I had two incidents of feeling overwhelmed to the point where my chest muscles tightened, I felt short of breath, and I had a hard time calming myself down. I wondered if I was having a heart attack, asthma, or possibly a mild anxiety attack. I reached out to a trusted friend who has dealt with similar symptoms in the past and she confirmed my suspicion, anxiety. She shared her story with me and we talked through what I needed to do to get better, how to feel less STUCK.
In life, we make decision after decision that slowly slides us towards this place of “BEING STUCK”. We spend too much $, we don’t discipline our children, we stay at work instead of going to our son’s baseball game, or daughters soccer game, we lay on the couch instead of going for a walk, we watch 4 plus hours of TV a night instead of investing time with those who love us. All of these decisions gradually build up to the point where we feel like we are at the point of no return. Over time we get STUCK. The good news is that, over time with right decisions, we can get UNSTUCK!
What decisions have you made to bring you to a place of being STUCK?
The answer to this question is very important, because one of the first steps in getting UN-STUCK is to take responsibility for your situation. It is time to swallow your pride and come to the realization that you should have done things differently in the past. It’s time to replace the bad habits with good habits, get on track and get UN-Stuck!
There are many resources you have available, but a great place to start is to ask someone for help. We are fed a lie in our lives that “we should be able to do it on our own”. Science, psychology and religion tell us that we are meant to do things together, to depend on one another, not to be alone. Stop believing the “Lone Wolf” lie and reach out for a helping hand. Reach out to:
- Someone you can trust. Go to someone who will keep your conversations confidential.
- Someone who can actually help you. If you go to someone who cannot help you, you have to ask yourself if you are just going to vent and really have no intention of getting UN-STUCK.
- Someone who has experienced the same thing you have, and have worked their way out of that situation.
- You may need to find an organization to help like Alcoholics Anonymous, Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University, Etc. There are organizations out there for you, you just have to make the effort to find them.
- You may need to hire a Personal Life Coach to help you identify your next action steps and hold you accountable for following through on them.
- You may need to hire a counselor, a lawyer, an accountant, whoever it takes to move you forward and get UN-STUCK!
It is a CHOICE. Your CHOICE. Are you willing to do what it takes to get to where you really want to be? If the answer is YES, what are you going to do today to move forward?