Every day we wake up, work, eat, and go back to bed. I know that is an oversimplification of what our days look like, but it can be pretty regimented at times. What is it that brings spice to our life? I believe it’s people. Even more specifically, the real spice comes from the people in our life that are closest to us, those most important people. I don’t know about you, but it is easy to fall into a day-to-day rut and start to take our most important people for granted. They enrich our lives and we enrich theirs. How can we spice up life and show them how much they mean to us?
My life is filled with many amazing people. I could not even begin to list them all because, in my absent-mindedness, I would surely leave someone out. Each person in my life holds a very special place in my heart. I am truly thankful for each of them. Just yesterday as I was driving to visit family, I spent some time mentally listing out all of the people that I am thankful for and why. I immediately felt peace and joy in my heart. We are so fortunate to have special people in our lives.
How can we tap back into our most important relationships? How can we show how much we care? Here are a few ideas:
- Our thoughts become our actions. Spend some time when you are driving or waiting for an appointment to think about all of the people in your life. Think about how special they are to you, how they contribute to your happiness, and how your life would not be the same without them. These wonderful thoughts will bring joy into your day and it prompts us to take action. I know when I take time to think about how lucky I am to have John, my husband, in my life, I can’t help but want to spend time with him, send him an encouraging text or give him a hug. Take some time today to think about and be grateful for the people in your life.
- Make it personal. Have you ever come across the perfect gift for someone? Or came up with an idea to surprise someone special to you? Remember the feeling of excitement it built in you? You were so excited to see the joy on their face when they received it. Ask yourself “what is one small thing I can do today to bring a smile to someone I care for?” It might be as simple as buying and giving them their favorite candy bar. It could be sending them a text message telling them how much they mean to you. It could be surprising your child by picking them up from school in person or bringing lunch to your significant other at work. Whatever it is, doing something special for those we care about reminds us of what is most important.
- Allow for fun. Every relationship looks differently; therefore this looks different for each of the individuals you care for. John and I enjoy spending time together, but many of our hobbies are independent from each other. It is important to enjoy time together, but I also enjoy giving John the freedom to go off and enjoy his hobbies without me. Figure out what that looks like for you, but prioritize fun for those most important to you. Life is too short not to enjoy it!
- Keep life simple. When I am running around with my head cut off, I do not have time or energy to do any of the above. We all have limits to our time, energy and focus. We can either give those we care for some of our focused time, or we can give them the leftovers. I don’t know about you, but at the end of the day, I don’t have much leftover. My creativity is used up, my energy is gone and fun is the last thing on my mind. The simpler we keep our lives and schedules, the more energy we have for those most important to us.
Who is most important to you? What would you like to do in the next 24 hours for them? Write yourself a reminder and make it happen. This small act will bring joy to you and those you care about!
Here’s to prioritizing those who are most important in our lives!
I spend a lot of time talking about how we can keep moving forward, and it is incredibly important in the pursuit of living our best. Today, I want to stop and remind you that you are wonderful and doing so much in your life that you should be proud of. Many of you are parents who pour love into your children every day. We all work hard at our house to make it a place where we, and our loved ones, can call home. We keep it running smoothly. Many of you work outside of your home meeting deadlines, working with challenging individuals, and providing financially. We volunteer at church, school, take care of loved ones, and continue to take baby steps towards our dreams. We are doing GREAT!
Just this week a dear friend of mine lovingly suggested that I should recognize all that I do and how far I have come. This same friend is one of the individuals in my life who holds me accountable. As part of our accountability, we keep a log of what we are working on how we want to move forward. It was in these logs where I spent some time reviewing my past year. I found some interesting insights.
- I realized that over the past year I have had the privilege of spending wonderful times with my parents, who are now in their 80’s. I would not trade that time for anything!
- I realized last year this time, my husband was changing jobs. There was a lot of uncertainty, and we knew that the year was going to be a year of transition. It has been filled with personal challenges, but we are making it through, and opportunities are unfolding.
- I have grown leaps and bounds! Things that I used to avoid like the plague, I am moving forward on. I have not let my fears hold me back! For that I am immensely proud!
- I have stayed steady and strong in the areas that are most important to me. My love for God, myself, and my husband has never been stronger. I have more energy than I have ever had physically because I have stuck with eating well and pushing myself with exercise. I love the people I spend my life with. Strong and steady!
I want you to celebrate what you have accomplished! Will you take time over the next few days to look back over your past year to see how far you have come? If you do not journal, take a look back on your calendar to see what you have accomplished. Look back on all of the pictures you have taken, remembering those important times in your life. You have done and accomplished so much!
You are an amazing person, having an impact on many lives for good. I am proud of you and your heart to live your best! Let’s celebrate what we have accomplished!
Here’s to US and how GREAT WE ARE!
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Our hearts beat a special way, even flutters a little bit when we experience a special moment with someone or something that we hold dear to our hearts. It could be that moment standing out in nature when you have that awe-inspiring feeling in the presence of it’s beauty. It could be that precious moment a little one looks up at you in that way that is special just between the two of you. It could be that moment when your significant other gently puts their hand in yours. These are special moments in our lives, and they feel so great. Yet how can the days pass by so quickly and these moments become so rare?
My husband, John and I were not able to have children ourselves; however, we have been blessed to have been adopted as “Aunt Jen and Uncle John” by many families. We adore these families and love spending time with them. I especially enjoy the moments when the little ones try to tackle a project on their own, but soon find they need a little assistance. Aunt Jen is always glad to jump in to help! Just recently we had a crew of kids making S’mores, roasting their marshmallows over the fire then assembling their gooey, melted, scrumptious snack. A few of the younger kids brought their freshly melted marshmallows over to the table for assembly, and a perplexed look fell over their faces. “How do I get this gooey thing off my stick and make my S’more?” I happened to catch that look of uncertainty that allowed me to jump into action. It took less than a minute as we worked together to assemble their S’more. The moment passes so quickly, but my heart skipped a beat when I handed them their ready to eat S’more. They looked up at me and they gave me something so sweet. It was that special look with that special smiles that said “thanks Aunt Jen.” No words needed.
These moments rarely happen on their own; they require some effort on our part. Here are three things that help facilitate special moments.
- Slowing down. Think back to the special moments you have had. Did they happen when you were running from one place to another feeling rushed or running late? It’s possible, but mine have always been in those slower, more peace filled moments. Our lives are incredibly busy. More and more is expected of us on a daily basis. Opportunities for special moments will slip by if we do not take the time to slow down.
- Ask ourselves what is most important? Is it more important to fold that last load of laundry or to sit down for a short period of time and talk with someone you love? Is it more important to run one more errand or to pull over into the park and enjoy an amazing sunset? Sometimes the laundry and the errand has to get done, I get it. But we will miss out on so much if we forget to remind ourselves what is most important.
- Look for opportunities. We have the opportunity to turn “normal” moments in our day into special moments. Looking for opportunities to create a special moment requires us to step out of our own world and into the world of others. If we are getting ready to stop by a friend or family member’s house, ask ourselves if there is something special you could pick up for them that would make their day. What do they love? Imagine the look on their face when they realize that not only did you go out of your way for them, but you remembered something that was special to them. The feeling in your heart will be priceless.
When you opened this blog post, what sweet moment immediately stirred in your mind? What did you have to do to make that moment a special moment? I, along with my other reader, would love to hear about your experiences and what made them special. Please comment below! You might have to set up an account the first time to leave a comment, but you only have to do it once and then we can chat all we want!
Here’s to a great life, filled with sweet moments!