As you work towards living your best life, do you suddenly experience fears that seem to come out of nowhere? Fear is something we all face to one degree or another. Some of us fear disappointing others, some fear looking foolish, and some fear financial uncertainty. The list of fears goes on and on. No one is immune to fear, the difference is how we deal with it. It can be the difference between moving forward or staying still.
Staying still is not an option for me. I always have to be doing something or working towards a goal. It is who I am. Because of this, I continue to travel roads that I have never traveled before, embarking on new territory. I wonder at times if I can really reach my goals. I wonder if I have it in me to keep going. I look into the future and wonder how I’m going to climb the mountains that are ahead. But I also see the sunrise over that mountain and I know there are great things for me on the other side. So how do I keep going? How do I persevere not knowing what lies ahead?
Here are some things I am trying to focus on. I hope they help you on your life’s adventures and goals as well.
- I’m finding individuals who have found success and I am learning as much I can from them. I have no desire to reinvent the wheel. Most people who have gone before us would love to know that their hard work is helping someone else succeed. We live in a day and age where the information we have access to seems endless. There are YouTube videos for every possible project you can think of. I am reading a ton, watching tutorial videos and spending time with people who have experience that I do not. An added bonus is these people bring much needed encouragement as well!
- I’m talking to myself, A LOT! I don’t know about you, but there are a lot of unsolicited thoughts that enter my mind that are negative. These uninvited thoughts tell me that I am silly to think I could accomplish such big goals. These thoughts try to coax me to stay inside my comfort zone. These thoughts tell me that I cannot make a difference in the world. These thoughts are WRONG, and I need to constantly remind them of it. So I tell myself, sometimes in my mind, sometimes out loud, that I can accomplish big things! Other have persevered before me, and so can I. I read myself a quote by Neale Donald Walsch that I have on my refrigerator that says “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” It is true! I remind myself that I am making a difference in the world. The negative thought will never stop invading my mind, but I am going to do all I can to stop them and refute them as quickly as possible.
- I’m creating a plan. This is challenging when we don’t know exactly what lies ahead, but I at least know what needs to happen in the foreseeable future. I take what I know, I create a plan, then I work my plan. As I move forward and crest the next hill, I suddenly see what the road ahead looks like. I add to my plan and keep moving forward one step at a time.
- I’m doing it afraid. This is no lie. I see things coming up in my near future that I need to tackle that are out of my comfort zone. But doing it afraid is the greatest way to move past my fears. I have done it before, I can do it again!
- I’m trying to remember to celebrate the victories, big and small. If I look back, I can see that I have come so far, and so have you! Isn’t it easy to jump right back on the road and keep moving forward? I have to remind myself to stop and enjoy the view. Look back and enjoy the view of the road I have already conquered. I have to celebrate how far I have come!
I want you to know that I am pushing forward in my dreams and goals right alongside of you. You are not alone. Moving forward can be hard at times, but don’t give up. We got this!
Here’s to putting fear in it’s place and conquering new territory!
Bumper cars are one of those rides that I loved when I was young. There is nothing better than flooring the pedal and ramming into something or someone. It is less fun when our day turns into a game of bumper cars and we are the one being rammed. But that is life sometimes, isn’t it? We wake up to a fresh new day, with fresh possibilities and suddenly feel run over. How can we keep moving in the right direction and take back control of our day?
I was pooped on this morning. Literally pooped on! If you are a parent, you have been in my shoes. I am a parent to an eleven year old Shih Tzu who has decided to become a nervous pooper in her old age. We now have a ritual on the way to the groomer each month. She pops out a little turd before we even leave our subdivision. Yes, I have tried to get her to “take care of business” before we leave the house, but she is a stubborn pooper too. Nope, she is going to wait until she is in the car. Once the realization hits that she is headed to the groomer…Pop! There it is! On top of that this morning, she decided to take it one step farther. She not only stepped on it, she proceeded to mash it into my pants before I could stop the car and allow her to finish her business. This is a silly example, but this was only one of many things that hit me this morning before 8 a.m. I felt like I was in a bumper car looking around to see what was going to hit me next.
There are a lot of “things” that can knock us off course in our day-to-day lives. Here are some things to focus on to help us stay on course.
- We must know what we want. What do you want your life to look like? What areas do you want to spend your time and attention? What is most important to you? It is essential to have a firm direction decided on in life, a firm picture of what you want. It is that picture you keep in your mind every day, and move towards no matter what hits. Envision a bumper car race to the opposite end of the rink. What do we do? We deal with those trying to bump us off course, but we ultimately keep our eyes focused on the finish line. It is important for us to do the same in life.
- Don’t give life’s detours and distraction much attention. Yes, we have to deal with what comes our way, but they only get bigger and bigger in our minds the more we focus on them. They can become less significant if we “acknowledge and move on.” Do what you need to do to deal with the issues that come your way, but then focus back on the good, important, positive things in life.
- Ask yourself “what is within my control to change?” If we come down with the flu bug, we have to allow it to run its course. We cannot tell the flu bug to go away. But when you are dealing with back pain, for example, there are usually things you can do like stretching, exercise, or physical therapy, to take control and get better. Many times we default to “there’s nothing I can do” when in reality, there is some way we can take control, make a change, and get back on track.
- Find something to learn. Focusing on constantly learning is a great way to live life. When we have this focus we see life as one big experiment. Sometimes things work great, sometimes they do not. But we end each “experiment” with two questions “What did I learn?” and “How can I apply that to move forward in the direction I want?” I also find a great way to keep my mind focused on good stuff is to read or listen to recording while I am being hit by life’s “stuff”. It keeps me focused on the good and not on potential negative things.
- Just GO! Sometimes we can feel beat up. It is during those times that we sit slumped over in our chairs and don’t feel like doing anything. I have been there! But let’s try not to stay there for too long. Sometimes we have to muster up that last bit of energy, put the pedal to the floor and GO! Get up and go.
Are you ready to take control of your life’s game of bumper cars? We can do it! Let’s stay focused on good stuff, be life learners, chart a course and keep going! We’ve got this!
Here’s to putting the pedal to the metal and living strong, amazing lives!
Have you ever had a period of time in your life that was what you would consider not fun…great…enjoyable? In fact that period of time was down right HARD! I am having a day today that feels really HARD. I feel like other people are succeeding, yet I have so far to go. My future “baby steps” do not look like much fun. I am tired, and I ask myself, “Where do I go from here?”
I am having a hard day, but I have gone through long periods of time that were very challenging as well. Someone once questioned me about my philosophy on Life Planning and Goal Setting. They wondered if it really worked because in their mind, they thought life should be perfect once you have gone through the Life Planning process. I was set back for a moment, but was able to share that I am absolutely living my best life. But living my best, and focusing on what’s most important to me, required more intentionality, more focus, and was very challenging at times. But the hard work was worth it!
Where we are today may not be a fun place to be. But we have to keep moving forward, reminding ourselves that we are moving towards something great! Here are some important reminders.
- Don’t compare. There is always someone “ahead” of us on our journey. In my life, there is always someone farther along than me at the gym, in my writing career, in my business development, in my bass playing, etc. They have each worked very hard for what they have accomplished. We can look to them for inspiration, but comparison will only get us into trouble. It will drain us of the motivation and positive energy we need to keep going.
- Savor the moment. I have to remind myself that life is a journey. I visualize myself driving across the United States, looking out the window of my car, taking in all there is to see. It is important for us to savor the moments in each day. Savor the moments when you have your little baby cuddled in your arms. Savor the moment when your kids discover new things. Savor the sweet moments with your significant other. Savor the rain falling and the cooler air as fall approaches. There are opportunities to savor the moment every day. We just have to open our eyes to them.
- Allow yourself to rest. I realized today that I was tired and it jaded my outlook. I know, because of life circumstances, it is easier at times than others, to get a good night’s rest. But being well rested can be a difference maker in our attitude, in our response to issues, in our decision-making, and our overall outlook. If we want to live and feel our best, we must get some rest!
- Do it afraid. I also realized today that part of my “down” feeling was the realization that my next steps in moving forward, are going to be hard. Honestly, I’m a little bit afraid of them. When we move forward, one baby step at a time, we eventually enter new territory. It is exciting territory, but scary too. I first heard the phrase “do it afraid” from Joyce Meyers, and she is right on! Let’s take a deep breath and keep moving in the direction we know we need to go.
Do any of these reminders strike a chord for you? Is there one that seems to rear its head more often than the others? Recognizing it is important, and making adjustments along the way is vital as we strive to live our best!
Here’s to saying goodbye to the blues and hello to brighter days ahead!