Life Can Be Blurry

Do you have any areas in your life that you simply don’t know where they are headed? One of the exercises I go through when I am trying to set a goal is to think about what I want that area of my life to look like in the future. It’s very helpful to have a picture or a vision of my future. But sometimes that picture is not clear. Sometimes we have to make one move, assess our situation, then make another move. Sometimes the roadmap of the future is not clear.

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My life is in a state of “weird” right now. I am someone who usually knows exactly where I want to go and has a 10 page plan on how to get there. That is not the case for me so far this year. I knew there were a few areas of uncertainty, but one area that I felt like I had a set goal and a plan is not working out that way. Every area that I want to move forward in this year is blurry and down right weird for me. So here is my plan, since I don’t have a plan! Hee Hee, that even made me giggle!

Take one step. Assess. Take another step. Assess. Take another step. Assess. Take another step….

At the beginning of the year I provided some resources to help us move forward one baby step at a time. Holy Cow! I never imagined the level I was going to have to depend on that philosophy. Quite frankly though, if it were not for the concept of baby steps, I would be stopped in my tracks at this point.

Here are a few things that I have to do to find success in this weird, new and unorganized stage of life.

  • I have to be more disciplined than ever before. It is really easy to get up in the morning and do nothing to move forward. I continually have to ask myself what do I feel the next step should be? I then have to be disciplined to do it, and that’s not easy.
  • I have to hush the fears that crop up in my mind. The fear of failure is ever-present when the future is uncertain.
  • I have to take care of myself. Moving forward into uncharted territory takes a lot of mental, emotional and physical energy. I have to do all I can to feel good and stay sharp.
  • I need to stay connected to people. It is very easy to pull in and isolate myself. I’ll be honest with you, it is hard to talk to my friends right now.  I don’t even know what to talk about, but spending time with those most important to me is vital.
  • I need to push through the pain and never stop asking “what can I do to move forward?” All change has it’s challenges. I have to push through those challenges and keep moving forward.

If the future is not clear for you right now, hang in there and keep moving forward. You have so much to offer this world, even when the road is a little bit blurry. Keep taking one small step at a time. I’m right here alongside of you!

Here’s to moving forward, no matter what!

I Don’t Wanna!

The day that I am writing this post is January 18th. I have made it 18 days into the New Year. 18 days after my “fresh start” and I am unmotivated, tired, and lazy and I simply DON’T WANNA! I don’t want to exercise, I don’t want to work, I don’t want to learn; I don’t want to do anything! I hope, for your sake, you are not feeling the same way I am, but if you are, we have to find a way to keep moving forward.

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I have signed up for my first ever triathlon. I have to be ready to swim, bike and run by the end of April. I have three months to come up to speed and this forty-four year old body is going to need every second of that time to get ready. After a week of travel and a week of being sick, yesterday was my day to get back to the Rec Center to train. I felt like I had a split personality because I had two voices competing inside of my head. One was one of the “parent” trying to convince myself that going to work out was the right thing to do, and the other voice was the “two-year-old” screaming “I don’t wanna!” After the battle continued for some time, thankfully the “parent” won the battle and I got to the Rec Center to swim and ride on the stationary bike.

You see, I am training and running in this triathlon for myself. I do not have a boss, I am not getting paid, I will not get reprimanded and no one will know any difference if I don’t train, work hard and complete this race. That is where the challenge lies when it comes to so many of the things we want to accomplish for ourselves. No one is there to push us, but we know we want to make it a reality. No one will know if we don’t succeed, but we desperately want to make things happen in our life and taste victory.

If you have followed my blog for long, you will know it is my heart’s desire to encourage you and help you live your absolute best. I tell you today that overcoming the “I don’t wannas” is not easy, but you can do it and you will! Here are a few things I did to help me keep moving forward.

  • I thought about the future. I thought about the day of my triathlon. I thought about getting out of the swim pool with that leg of the race behind me. I thought about the bike ride and how much I will enjoy it. Then I thought about crossing the finish line after the run and feeling the amazing feeling of accomplishment. When we are feeling unmotivated, let’s think about what it will be like when we accomplish our desired change or goal. It gives us a little boost to keep going.
  • I had to stop my mind from giving me reasons not to go. A few times that morning my mind reminded me of how cold it was to swim during the winter. How cold it was going to be getting out of the pool and walking into the locker rooms. My mind wanted to remind me of all of the negative, uncomfortable things involved in my training. We have to stop those thoughts right when they start. If we let them float around in our minds too long, they will convince us that it is ok to skip out just this one time.
  • I had to tell myself to “just do it!” I don’t use the words “shut-up” very often, but I had to tell myself to “shut-up and just do it!” I had to be frank with myself by telling myself to “quick complaining and go!” Folks, I can be a big baby at times. I love things to be easy, but that is not how life works, especially if you are working towards amazing things. We know what we need to do, so let’s just do it!

That was my story from yesterday. Today I have a day where I need to get some work done, and lo and behold I started in on the “I don’t wannas” again. We are going to have days when we feel like this, but we must keep moving forward, making good choices, one small step at a time.

Oh, by the way, when I was done swimming and biking yesterday, I felt amazing! And today, when I finish the work that I need to get done, I will be thankful that I pushed through the “I don’t wannas!” You will feel great too; just keep taking small steps forward! You got this!

Here’s to throwing our “I don’t wanna” tantrums and moving forward anyway!

Are You Ever Stopped Before You Get Started?

Henry Ford once said “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right.” Do you believe that the power of your thoughts dictates your actions, and therefore the outcome? Do you believe that if you think you can, then you can? And do you believe that if you have the mindset that you can’t, then that mindset will sabotage your success and you will not succeed?

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This is a deep concept to grasp, at least it was for me. I have Mr. Ford’s quote in my office and I had to chew on that quote for quite some time. It took me a while to buy into his words, but I now understand them to be very true. When I believe I can, I start to put one foot in front of the other and move forward. When I think, deep down in my soul, that there is no way I can accomplish something, it stops me in my tracks. Action is key in this. If we believe we can, we start to move forward. When we believe something is impossible, we stay put in our current reality.  

It was a process for me to get to the point of believing I could succeed, specifically with my writing. I have struggled with grammar, vocabulary, spelling and writing all my life. I have felt like a failure many times. I have been told that my writing was not good and that my thoughts did not flow well. But I know I can do this and I know that I want to help you live your best life, so I keep going.

Remember, I am walking through this journey with you in real-time. I write about things that I have learned through the years, but I also continue to work through these concepts myself, literally,  as you read about them. Just this morning I was reading a book that was originally published in 1959 called The Magic Of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz. He was talking about his experiences with individuals who found success when they believed that “they could.” I instantly asked myself, “do I believe that I can do what it takes to make my desired changes a reality in 2017?”  I really had to chew on that for a while and I got fearful that I don’t have what it takes to succeed.

Do you feel that way sometimes when it comes to the area of change you want to make in your life? Fears start to crop up and memories of past failures rear their head. It is a normal feeling, but we have to put those fears in their place, stand tall and believe with everything we can muster, that WE CAN! Once we are in the mindset of “we can!” we start to put one foot in front of the other and move forward towards success!

I believe that I can make the desired changes that I want to make in 2017! Do you believe you can? Let’s do it together, one step at a time!

 

If You are Determined to Live Your Best, You Can Have the Greatest Holiday Season Ever

As you know, living our best does not just happen. It requires thinking, planning and implementation. But we so often take a leap right over the “taking time to think” part and jump right into the planning. It is when we dig in and put some real thought into our lives that we discover some amazing insights. I know life is busy, and having time alone to think is scarce, but it will make a huge difference in your life if you prioritize it.

It is not a coincidence that I am writing about this subject right now. The Holidays are right around the corner and I know we all want them to be wonderful. Because that is my heart as well, I have created some Free Resources that I am very excited about! They come out next week with the express purpose of helping all of us focus on the most important things this Holiday Season. But these resources will do us no good if we don’t take the time out of our busy day to focus on them and ultimately the most important people and areas of our lives. This is going to require determination on your part and a “Can Do” attitude. But I know you want to live your best and you are willing to do what it takes to make that happen!

I have grown to love my “time to think” and you will come to cherish it as well. Here are a few things to help you make it happen.

  1. Make arrangements. If you have young children at home, make arrangements so that you can get away. This may require you to talk to a friend and have them take the kids one day and you take their kids another day, allowing you both to have some free time. If you have a significant other, talk to them about taking care of the kids. Even if they do not completely understand why you need the time away, help them understand that it is important to you. If it comes down to it, hire a babysitter. There are some areas in our lives that deserve investment. This is one of them. Your family will benefit immensely from the time you spend away thinking.
  1. Schedule it. Don’t just talk about it, make it happen. We can say “we should do that” all day long. Go ahead and schedule it, get it on the calendar and make it happen. There is a chance that life will throw you a curve ball, like it so often does, but make “thinking time” a non-negotiable. Today was my day to take some time to think. I planned to take that time at home while my husband was at work, but because of a curve ball, I am up at the laundromat  washing bedding. I will let you imagination come up with the scenario that brought me to a laundromat, but I did not allow this detour in my day keep me from having my quiet time. If fact, I am forced to sit here for forty-one minutes while my bedding washes. I could have thrown in the towel, but it ended up being a great time and place to think.
  1. Keep it simple. The goal of taking time to think is to quiet yourself and think about the most important things in your life. In the resources I have for you next week, I will actually have questions for you to think through and space to write down your thoughts, but keep it simple. Find a place that is distraction free for you, grab a pencil or a pen and relax. I love to start off by taking a long walk by myself and them sometimes I go to my local library. I find a quiet spot and get to work.

I want the absolute best for you and taking time to think has been life changing for me. I am confident you will find the same results. You can make it happen!


I am SO EXCITED to get my Holiday Resources into your hands next week! The Series is called Keys to a Wonderful Holiday Season for those Dedicated to Live Their Best. For the next three months I will send all of my subscribers a Monthly Virtual Goody Bag of free resources to help you have a great Holiday Season! The first one will be delivered to your email inbox this coming Wednesday, November 2nd! If you have not subscribed yet, go to the right hand column of my website, and you can subscribe there. You won’t want to miss it!

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It is my heart’s desire for you to have an amazing Holiday! Schedule some “time to think” now and be ready to put your most important people and areas in your life first, right where they belong!

Here’s to living our best this Holiday Season!