Let’s Meet Up

Ladies, It is so much fun to live life with you! Even though we are spread across the globe, we have a shared passion. We find strength as we come together to have fun, encourage each other and make our piece of the world a better place. Together!

I see an amazing future for you and me! One where we:

  • Invest in Self Care, replenishing our strength and vitality allowing us to…
  • Invest in our heart’s BEST work, disqualifying many of the “good” works presented to us…
  • Investing in one right decision at a time, one after another…
  • Contributing to those around us to make our piece of the world a better place!

Picture yourself there!

That is a life worth living! That is a life worth fighting for! That is a life that changes the rules!

  • I see a future of ENERGIZED moms, business owners, Girl Scout leaders, care givers, wives and daughters!
  • I see them tapped into what makes their heart sing!
  • I see them so in love with their heart’s work that they do not allow other things to sway them from it!
  • I see women asking themselves “What right decision can I make next to keep my energy tanks filled and fill other’s tanks as well?”
  • I see you, me and women across each country ENERGIZED to do our heart’s work.

Wow, that’s a world I want to live in…but I need help! I don’t know exactly how to make that happen! It scares me a little, overwhelms me a lot!

We don’t have to do it alone, we should not! There is a wealth of knowledge in you and the women around you. We have all worked on self care, for example. We have struggled, we have learned, and have found some success. Lets learn from each other. Lets share stories of our challenges and successes. I want to live out this ENERGIZED life with you and with other ENERGIZED women! Our ENERGY is contagious!

Here are two ways we can do this:

  • Find a women (or two or three) in your life who wants to live ENERGIZED and focused on her Heart’s Work. Spend time together. It might be grabbing coffee, walking over lunch, or a weekly phone call across miles. Have fun, share your ups, downs and how you want to move forward. Life is so much more fun when shared with another ENERGIZED women! Sharing life with dear friends and encouraging each other is priceless! Do you have that person in your life right now? If not, keep moving forward in positive ways and keep an eye out for neighbors, co-workers, fellow church attenders, etc. that you might enjoy spending time with. Invite them to grab coffee and get to know them. You never know, your new found friendship might be just the fun and encouragement both of you need.
  • I know amazing women spread from the west coast to the east coast who have the same shared passion. I wish I could have a week long gathering to allow all of you to meet and hear each other’s insights and stories. Wow! Wouldn’t that be fun? Instead of one concentrated week of fun and encouragement, I have set up a venue for you to get to know each other, share stories, ask questions and ENERGIZE each other all year long! It’s a brand new Facebook Group set up just for you and other Amazing Women!

Below is the link for our brand new group. Let’s meet each other out there. We want to hear about your heart’s work, about the right decisions you are making in your life, about what is working for you, what has not worked, your challenges and your greatest victories! We can’t wait to see you out there!

Here’s to our Shared Passion, living ENERGIZED, investing in our Heart’s Work, making the next right decision, contributing to others and our world, and doing it TOGETHER!

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Finish? We Are Just Getting Started!

I believe in always learning something new and gaining new perspectives. The way I love to learn is to read books. When I come across good material, I love to share it with others. I love to talk about it to see what others think about it. This last fall, I attended a Leadership Conference called “Catalyst” in Atlanta, Georgia. I went into the conference tired and drained. As each speaker shared their message I slowly found my energy tank filling. On the second day Jon Acuff came on stage and before I knew it he had me belly laughing. He is a hoot, but along with that he has a very inspiring message (backed up by research). I bought his book Finish – Give Yourself The Gift Of Done and loved it so much I wanted to review it for you at the beginning of this new year.

“According to studies, 92 percent of New Year’s resolutions fail. Every January, people start with hope and hype, believing that this will be the New Year that does indeed deliver a New You. But though 100 percent start, only 8 percent finish. Statistically you’ve got the same shot at getting into Julliard to become a ballerina as you do at finishing your goals.”1

Wow, that puts things into perspective! The question is then, how do we finish? Here is one big insight I walked away with:

“The less that people aim for perfect, the more productive they become.”2

I have come to realize that I am a perfectionist in a lot of areas of my life. If you are too, anything less is not acceptable. Jon lays out a really good argument that our desire for perfectionism could be what is actually holding us back from reaching our goals. Chapter number one is titled “The Day After Perfect”. Here is a snippet  that makes me giggle but is painfully true, too.

“While exercising, I decided to “get serious.” I remembered that in Timothy Ferriss’s book The 4-Hour Body, he recommends a simple breakfast of eggs, black beans, spinach, cumin, and salsa. When my family sees me rooting around the cupboards for black beans, they all groan. “Oh no, here we go again.” They know that the next twelve days in a row I am going to eat beans. Why only twelve? Because on Day 13 I’m going to get too busy, have a meeting, or be on a business trip without my traveling beans. Upon missing one day, I will quit the whole endeavor. Once the streak is broken, I can’t pick it back up. My record is no longer perfect so I quit altogether.”3

Holy Cow! I can relate! The thing that comes to my mind with this is that working on a goal is hard work. We don’t think about it in those terms, but working towards anything good takes a lot of effort. When I hit “the day after perfect” my momentum stops and I realize how tired I am. I really have a hard time getting going again.

All of us start the new year with energy and great ambition. We want to reach our goals and increase the percentage of successful resolutions.

The rest of the book gives great tips on how to move forward successfully. As I read it, I kept thinking “I want to share this with others. This is very helpful stuff!” If you are looking for a helpful and practical book that will make you giggle at times and move you towards achieving your goals, this is a book I recommend.

Here’s to looking back on 2019 and saying “I moved forward on my goals and dreams!”

How about you? What is it about the day after perfect that stops you in your tracks? Leave your answer on Facebook, Linkedin, or right here in my blog. Me and other amazing women need to hear from you. It’s great to know we are in this together. Let’s not do this alone!

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1 J. Acuff, Finish: Give Yourself The Gift Of Done. (Portfolio/Pengium 2017), 2-3.

2 Ibid. 4.

3 Ibid. 8-9.

Gain Energy & Focus…At The Right Speed

I don’t think there is one of us that would say “no” to more energy and focus, especially coming off of the Holiday Season. Energy and focus can feel in short supply as we rush through life from one commitment to the other. How is it possible to gain more?

A few years back, I started to realize something about myself. When I got up in the morning, took my time getting ready and did not feel rushed, my day went a lot smoother. I would remember to bring the lunch I had packed the night before, I would remember to stop by the dry cleaner to drop off our clothes, and I arrived at work focused and ready to work. Then I had multiple days where the opposite was the case. For some reason or the other, someone, or something, rushed me out the door. In the process I immediately felt stressed, drove right past all of the errands I was supposed to run and felt the life draining out of me before the day even got started. I like life to be slow!

Some of you may resonate with my desire for a slow life, but many of you love a much faster pace and are ready for me to get on with this post so you can jump to your next project. “You are taking way too long, Jen!” You know who you are! Hee, Hee! Then there are many of you somewhere in between.

Do you know that each of us has a Personal Speed Limit? We do, and you know what happens when we live our life within our speed limit? We feel ALIVE! We feel energized! We feel more focused! How then do we figure out and live in our Personal Speed Limit?

  1. Start to pay attention. Recognize the days you feel drained and ask yourself why. Enjoy the days that you feel great, but don’t let them end before reflecting back on why it was so great.
  2. Start to document your findings. In our busy lives, if we don’t capture our thoughts, they will be gone like the wind. I love to journal, but use whatever means you desire. Documenting your experiences in this area will help you to see patterns that will point you towards your Personal Speed Limit.
  3. Start to experiment. One day my husband and I were driving out to lunch and he commented that “life’s one big experiment!” It is so very true. As you start to discover different things about your Personal Speed Limit, try to add more of those into your day. The opposite is true too, try to stop working at a speed that is not right for you. See how things change.
  4. Consider Others Personal Speed Limits. I think it is a great thing to serve others. One way to do that is to recognize other’s Personal Speed Limit and step into their “zone” for a while. Another option when bringing multiple Speed Limits together, is to give everyone the freedom to go at their own pace. This plays out well in my friends group bike rides. Everyone goes at their own pace, and meets up at the end to celebrate together.
  5. Live as much within your Personal Speed Limit so that you can feel energized, not drained. Feel Focused not forgetful. Feel fully alive so that you can live your best life!

Here’s to focusing on what is most important to us with a ton of energy, focus and life!

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You Can Do It…Differently

I don’t know about you, but I want to focus on the Most Important Things in my life in 2019. That seems like an obvious goal, but it is not always the reality we are pulled into. We all have very busy schedules, more obligations than we can meet, and only 24 hours in a day. If we want to improve the way we live and what gets our focus in the next year, we may have to do things differently.

First of all, do you know what is Most Important to you? I think you have a pretty good idea of what should be on the top of your list. Have you ever written it down though? Writing down this list actually helps us think through it a little bit deeper. I have provided a free resource at the end of this blog to help you out. Let’s do things a little different in 2019 and actually write down our Most Important List.

Second, compare your Most Important List to your calendar. Does your calendar reflect what you have determined to be Most Important to you? The greatest gift we can give is that of our time. Do you need to do things a little differently and add more of the items on your Most Important List to your calendar in 2019?

Lastly, we have two options in 2019, to say “yes” or to say “no”. Those are your two options. Something will get your time and attention, and something will not. You are in the driver’s seat. When you are asked to add something to your life in 2019, will you say yes to the Most Important things, or set them aside for good but less important things?

On December 31, 2019 it is my heart’s desire that we all look back on this amazing year and know, without a doubt,  that we focused on the Most Important People and Things in our lives. Here’s to trying things differently in 2019 to live our BEST!

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When Everything Else is Stripped Away, What is Most Important to You?

I hope this blog post finds you and your family well, but I also know that life is not perfect, even here in December. The television commercials display the perfect happy family, perfect romance and the perfect gift under the tree, which is a brand new car! Hee, Hee! I asked my husband, the other night, how many people actually get a new car for Christmas? I am thrilled for you, if you are one of those people! When we strip all of the “stuff” away, I ask you “What are the things that are most important to you?”

The reason this question is so important this time of year, is that we have the desire for the Holidays to look a certain way. We desire quality time with family. We desire to catch up with friends that are only in town this time of year. We desire to keep God as the focus of the season. How is it that we get to the end of another year and feel a little sad because another Holiday Season flew past and is gone?

I know one of the biggest things that gets me off track each year, are the expectations of others. It is great that so many people want us to be a part of their event, but we have a choice, fill our time with what others want us to do, or fill our time with what is most important to us. I, by no means, want us to be disrespectful to others, I simply don’t want us to fill our time with expectations of others and miss out on what is most important to us, again.

While you are driving home within the next day, since that might be the only quiet time you have in your day, think about who and what is most important to you. Ask yourself if you have prioritized quality time with them this Holiday Season. Think about the obligations and expectations that you have agreed to that might keep you from your most important people and things.

Decide to have an amazing Holiday Season. It’s up to you. Someone is going to get your time and someone will not. You get to decide who those people are.

I wish you the absolute best Christmas and New Year!

Jen

A Very Important Question to Answer

Why? can be one of the most frustrating questions to hear if it comes from the sweet, little precious mouth of a three year old. Three year olds are curious about so many things, but I also believe that they learn quickly that constantly asking “why?” gets on the nerves of those around them, so they employ the question even more. As annoying as it can be, the questions “why?” is actually a very important one that gets lost in the busyness of our day to day life. The treasures we can find when answering that questions can be priceless.

It is my heart’s desire for us to live an amazing life, whatever that looks like for each of us. I don’t know about you, but I am always needing to make tweaks and adjustments in my life. Being a good wife, daughter of an amazing eighty-four year old mom, working full time, trying to eat healthy, exercise, stay on track with our budget, staying connected with family and friends, and focusing on my relationship with God is just the start of my list, and I know yours, too. Just when we think we have it all “balanced” something starts to slip. Adjustment have to be made.

What is an adjustment that you would like to make in your life right now? With the Holiday Season, I think we all have the desire to slow life down a little bit. I think we all have the desire to focus on those people who are most important to us. What one adjustment would you like to make in your life?

Now here comes the all important question to answer! WHY? Why do you want to make that adjustment in your life?

I could fill this blog post with a ton of insights on how to answer this question, but I will save that for another post. Instead of spending the next five minutes reading a long blog post, I want you to take the next five minutes and tap into your heart. In the area that you want to make a change:

  • What is it about it that makes you sad or breaks your heart?
  • What is it about it that excites you?
  • What is it about it that makes you a little scared, makes you feel immediately drained?
  • What is it about it that gets you pumped with excitement?

Answer these questions, then allow them to guide you into answering the question “why do I want to make the adjustment in your life right now?” Allow the answer to guide you in the direction you feel you need to go.

The adjustment you need to make may be big or small, but regardless, you can take one, two or three baby steps in the right direction today.

You are amazing and want to do amazing things! Here is to taking some time to think, tapping into your heart, answering important questions, and moving forward one small step at a time!

Have a great week!


Add the Habit of Subtraction!

We are in the midst of a very fun and festive time of year. It is a time to enjoy parties with co-workers and see family and friends that we don’t get to see every day. We get to go shopping to try to find just the right gift for the people we care about. Some very enjoyable things are added to our calendars this time of year, but one thing we rarely consider is subtraction.

Just recently, I spent time talking to an amazing women who’s schedule had become crazy busy. She had a family member who was dealing with some health issues, and therefore, was very dependent on her. She had to add many things to her schedule for a few months and she was starting to feel the stress. We talked about this idea of subtracting something during this time to alleviate some of the pressure she was feeling. When she gave herself permission to subtract, she felt immediate relief.

Life is always demanding more of us, wouldn’t you agree? It is rare that someone says to you “you have done so much, I want to give you a break from doing more.” That statement almost made me laugh out loud! No, the opposite is true. More than likely, if you have been successful in an area of your life, people are more than likely to ask you to do more, and more, and more, not less. While that is a nice complement to your hard work and abilities, there has to be a point where we stop adding. We all want to live a great life, and we have all been in that place where we were so busy that life was far from great.

I want to not only give you permission to start subtracting things out of your schedule, I want to tell you that it is right and healthy. Just as we accept more responsibility when asked, my heart for all of us is to get in the habit of saying “I have agreed to add, now what am I going to subtract?” It would be even better to get into the habit of subtracting before we commit to something new. To say to ourselves “In order for me to take on this new project, what will I need to subtract to allow myself to continue to live a great life?”

During the holidays we do not think twice about adding more, it’s the hustle and bustle of December right? Yes, it is. I encourage you to take a few minutes to look at your calendar and ask yourself where there are a few places you can subtract. Can you take off a half day from work? Can you postpone an evening meeting, giving yourself and everyone else involved a break? Can you block off a “snow day” one of your weekends allowing you and your family to have time together? Whatever it is, an amazing habit to add to your life is to learn how to subtract.

Here’s to trying our best to live a great life, adding amazing things, and subtracting the others!

Turning The Tide On Your Healthy Routines

Kids provide such great illustrations!

September is the month to get back to our healthy routines. School is back in session for many who have kids, but even for those of us who don’t, it feels like a time to get refocused. Do you have some healthy habits that went by the wayside over the summer months? Are you ready to turn the tide back in the right direction?

Over Labor Day weekend, I was relaxing around the hotel pool with family watching the kids create a whirlpool in the water. They were having a ton of fun getting the water to move in one direction and feel the current start to pull them along without much effort. What was really fun for us adults who were watching was to see them try to stop and turn in the direction of the current. Their eyes would get really big and the look of surprise came across their faces when they realized how difficult it was going to be, pushing against the tide.

That is exactly how we feel when it is time to get back on track with our healthy habits. We have allowed them to slip a little bit, we have gone along with the current of life, allowing it to pull us long. Now it is time to get back on track, so we turn into the tide.

We have the same reaction my nieces and nephew had in the pool:

  • Their eyes opened up real wide in surprise! I don’t know about you, but when I go back to the gym after a period of time off, I think that I should be able to start right where I left off. Hee Hee! NOPE! Every single time I am surprised by the fact that it feels like I have to start from scratch. Yes, you will probably be surprised when you step back into your healthy habit if you have taken a break for a while, but don’t let that stop you!
  • They actually place one foot behind them to brace themselves against the oncoming current. Because we are starting fresh, it takes a little bit to brace ourselves as we try to get going in a new direction. There will be a time of adjustment, and that is okay! The key is that you are standing firm and not allowing the current to push you backwards. You’ve got this!
  • They leaned forward into the tide. Because you know you can accomplish great things, you lean forward in determination. You look straight ahead with you eye on your goal and you go against the feelings of un-motivation or laziness. You are determined to move forward.
  • They took one difficult step at a time. Your starting to move forward! It is not easy, but you do it! The work is hard, but you feel a sense of accomplishment when you are done!
  • The tide started to turn. Before you know it, your routine becomes easier and easier! You feel the momentum going in the right direction!
  • Watch for tide busters! One of my nephews decided that he wanted to have fun and disrupt the tide the other kids were working so hard to create. They were all having a ton of fun, but it reminded me that there are many things that can stop your momentum. Some are within our control like laziness and excuses. Others are out of our control, like illness. Whatever the tide buster is, the key to success is to get moving back in the right direction as quickly as you can.
  • They turned the tide and so can you! Whatever healthy routine you want to get refocused on, get out there and get going! It might be challenging at first, but you will get back into a great routine and be back on track in no time!

Here’s to having fun splashing around in the tide, but ultimately taking charge of it and turning the tide in the direction you want!

 

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Take A Break? Are You Kidding Me!?!

My Summer Experiment

You start your day and get dialed in to what you need to accomplish that day. Your “to-do” list expands faster than you can remove items from it and you have not even pulled out of the driveway. Whether you work inside your home or outside of your home, the demands on your time are never-ending. How could you even consider taking a few minutes to do nothing? To take a break?

One of my summer reads challenged me to start to take breaks in my day and in my life. The book Peak Performance by Brad Stulberg and Steve Magness shared sound evidence stating that I would actually come out ahead if I took a few short breaks in my day.

This is counter-intuitive to the way my mind works. I feel like I will get more done if I keep plugging away, with no stops. Okay, maybe a bathroom break every once in a while, but only when it is an emergency! Brad and Steve were very convincing in their argument and their research. Convincing enough to motivate me to give it a try. It unexpectedly turned into my own personal experiment.

I started by setting the alarm on my phone for a morning and afternoon break. Once the alarm went off, I would find a natural stopping point in my work and take a ten minute break. One thing I have learned, before I get too much farther, is the longer I wait to take my break after may alarm sounds, the more likely I am to keep working and forget my break entirely.

Once my alarm sounds I head to the back steps of our office building for my break. The recommendations of this break is to allow your mind to wander and relax, not strategize your work for the rest of your day. There has been evidence shown that going outside is beneficial, and walking or adding in some sort of movement, is great too. I have heard of individuals going up and down the staircases at their work. Wow, what great exercise that would be. Each one of us work in completely different environments, so we do the best with what we have. The key is to allow our minds to wander during this time.

Here is what my experiment has revealed. The days I take my morning and afternoon break, along with my lunch break, I feel less “brain fried” at the end of the day. No joke! I have found dramatic results. The days I forget to take my breaks, I drive home like a zombie. My brain is wasted. I find that when I take my breaks during the day, I can work well all the way until the end of the day. When I forget a break,  I start to slow down by the end of my work day. When I take my breaks, I feel better and have more energy left for my evenings.

I have to tell you that I did not expect these results when I start taking breaks. The results are unmistakable. Breaks make a HUGE difference. I work better and I have more left over at the end of the day.

Two ten minute breaks and a lunch break is what I challenge you to try. Don’t beat yourself up if you miss one, because I still forget one here and there. Give it a few weeks and pay attention to the difference it makes. I know, for me, this is a lifelong habit that I want to create.

Here’s to trying something new, creating a habit that is great for you and those you love!

It’s Important to Reboot!

Four benefits to powering down

What is our first response when our smartphones or computers start to act quirky or get sluggish? We power them down. You know, you and I need the same thing, and summer is a great time to reboot our lives. Powering down and unplugging allows our minds and bodies to get some much-needed downtime.

Four benefits to powering down:

It allows your mind to rest. I was talking to a friend recently. She set off for a week-long adventure biking across the state of Missouri. She said it took her almost two days to allow her mind to slow down and to not think about her job. She said that once she did, she felt great. It really does feel great to allow our minds to rest and wander. If fact, there is more and more research showing that it is through this time that we allow our minds to wonder and rest when our minds actually grow. Yes, using our mind helps them grow, but over use is detrimental. Using our minds, then resting them, allows them to grow. So many times we forget how important downtime is for our minds, and ultimately, our well-being.

It can be good for your body. So many times, it is during downtime that we find time to do the things that feel good for us. Some of those things can be unhealthy, but some of them can be wonderfully healthy. It is good for your body to take that nap that you never have time to take. It is good for your body to get out on that walk or run that you would love to fit into your everyday life. It is fun to get out and try something that you have never tried before and take an adventure. Reboot your body by doing something that is good for it, even if that is catching up on some sleep.

It can be good for your relationships. Life is hectic and busy. Some days we cross paths with those we love as one is coming and the other is going. Or, like my husband and I, at the end of a work day, we try to put work behind us for the day, therefore we don’t talk much about it. It is during the downtime that we have together that we can really share how things are going, how we feel about things and where we want to go in the future. Downtime is a great time to reconnect with those you love.

It is good for our emotional well-being. I don’t know about you, but sometimes during my work week I really have to hold my emotions together. We all deal with a variety of personalities each day of our lives and boy, they can be challenging. Holding it together at a professional level takes a lot of energy. It is important to remove ourselves from that level of stress on a regular basis. Even more than that, it is important to have fun, be silly, do whatever it is that you enjoy. We all need an emotional break from our day-to-day life.

I could go on and on, but you want to read a blog post, not a dissertation. I hope this post will allow you to see the importance of downtime and allow you to give yourself permission to fit some into your calendar. It is good for you and those you love.

Here’s to some great downtime this summer!

P.S. Start scheduling downtime now for the fall and winter too!