It was fun to watch the Olympics! I know most people were getting tired of watching swimming, but swimming is a sport I love, so I enjoyed every minute of it! While watching swimming, it can appear that the athlete is a “one-man-team”, however, when we see the interviews after the race, the athlete is surrounded by a team of individuals who have coached, mentored and supported them and helped them become their best. Why is it, as we are trying to live our best, that we feel we need to go at it alone? We feel as though we have failed if we have to ask for help, when the opposite is the truth. Asking for and receiving help can propel us forward and speed up our growth and desired change.
I frequently use examples from my experience with learning how to play the upright bass. It truly has been one of the hardest things I have taken on, and one that requires perseverance. Recently, I was working on learning a new song. I had been struggling for some time with motivation and excitement for playing. As I was practicing, I became extremely frustrated because my brain would not “get it!” I realized I was hitting a wall.
As I looked back over the past few months, I realized I had hit that same wall time and time again. This time, it truly gave me a headache! As I stood holding my instrument, resisting the urge to smash it on the ground, like the cool musicians do, I realized “I need help!” I needed someone to help me over this wall that I was hitting. I needed to get help from someone knowledgeable, who has been in my shoes, and who would encourage me to keep pressing forward. That is exactly what I did. I met with my music instructor. From his years of experience, he knew exactly what encouragement I needed and what steps I need to take in order to move forward. I walked out of my session almost in tears because I was so thankful for his help and much needed encouragement!
How about you? Do you have any areas of your life that you feel like you have hit a wall and you can’t seem to move past it? Have you been trying to take off those pounds and not finding results? Have you been trying to eliminate pain, physical or emotional, and it won’t go away? Are you ready to move forward and make progress? Here are some wonderful benefits of “asking for help!”
- Other individuals have knowledge that we don’t. Do you know what mixolydian mode is in music? I had never heard of such a thing until my music instructor taught it to me. This one concept made a huge difference in the song I was learning. He has knowledge of big and small things that will make a huge difference in how I learn and move forward. Someone knowledgeable in your areas of desired change can do the same for you.
- Other individuals have experience we can learn from. I love listening to other people’s stories. There is so much to learn as we listen to others and how they were able to accomplish great things and move past their areas of frustration. Their life may be very different from mine, but I find there is always something I can pick up just by listening to the experiences of others.
- Other individuals have perspectives we need to hear. This can also come as a “kick in the butt” too! In my frustration, I asked my bass instructor “how can you hear that? No matter what I do, I can’t hear what I am supposed to be playing!” He looked me straight in the eyes and asked me “how long have you been playing music?” I sighed “under three years.” He said “Exactly!” He helped me realize that I am still very new at this and all of these skills will come over time, if I persevere. I needed that perspective!
- Other individuals have encouragement that will help us move forward! We all need encouragement! That encouragement looks different for each of us, but we all need it. My personal trainer had learned that if he tries to encourage me with “RAH RAH” cheers, all it motivates me to do is roll my eyes at him. He has learned how to encourage me and keep me moving forward. We all need encouragement in our lives!
So what is your next step? Is there an area in your life where you feel you need help? Who can you ask? Do you see how it will help you get over the wall you keep banging your head against? Remember, winning is a team effort. We don’t need to go at it alone!
Here’s to no more wall banging headaches!
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