The Importance of Discovering Who You Are and “Being You”!

I have come to realize that life is a process of understanding ourselves, and then taking that information to live better in this world of ours. We are amazing, complex individuals that have been created, shaped and formed through our environment, the people in our lives, and our many experiences. I believe we will go into old age still discovering new things about ourselves. We truly are amazing.

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I will be honest, I have not been intentional about learning about myself. It has been through people in my life presenting various tools that I have helped me tap into who I am, what I am gifted in, what I am strong at, what I enjoy, why I respond to things the way I do, etc.  But through this process, going on for about 10 years now, I am a much more confident, happy, free person. And like so many great things, I want everyone to experience the same confidence, happiness and freedom.

Here are just of few things I have learned and discovered about myself:

  • I have an overall optimistic view of life, but I have to watch out for the negative things that I think about myself. I tend to be hard on myself.
  • I love to be active. I love to walk, play volleyball, and my latest discovery is that I enjoy working out punching a boxing bag.
  • I like being by myself. There is a time for me to be with people, and there is a time for me to be by myself. If I do not get my “me” time, I get cranky (just ask John).
  • I have experienced God’s presence in my life. I try to stay in tune with Him every day so I can learn to love Him and others better.
  • I LOVE sweets! I have realized over the past few years how bad sugar is for me, so I had to cut back. But I really enjoy sweet stuff!

Learning about yourself is not difficult, but it takes time and intentionality. You have to get away from the hustle and bustle of life to read, think, make observations, and utilize great tools. I believe the more we know ourselves and live our lives focused on our gifts, strengths, and amazing qualities, the better:

  • Spouse we will be.
  • Friend we will be.
  • Parent we will be.
  • The more fun we will have.
  • The more energized we will feel.
  • The better we will serve others.

…the list goes on and on! Each ring on a tree represents a year of growth. The year could be a year of great abundance, severe drought, fire, disease, or just getting by with what it needs. But the tree still grows! We have a choice, no matter what our current season looks like, to grow and learn. Join me on this quest to take time to learn about ourselves, feel more energized, and give back like we never thought possible.

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Now Open: Life Planning Class Registration – October 2013

Registration has begun for the October Life Planning Class at St. Charles Community College taught by our very own Coach Jen!

Click on this link to start the registration process. Read on for more details.

Life Planning Class








The summer semester of this class was a huge success and we are running it again to help you overcome the busyness of your life! Here’s what one of the participants from the summer semester had to say:

The Life Planning Class I took at the St. Charles Community College went above and beyond my expectations of the course. Jennifer Regan from Lead Thru Example worked with each one of us to develop a life plan tailored to our individual goals and dreams. She not only gave us the tools we needed to pull together our ideas but quiet time during class to disconnect from our current distractions to focus on life’s priorities. By the end of the course I had not only developed a realistic life plan but the ability to recognize some of the distractions keeping me from my goals!

Craig D.

As a participant of the class you can expect:

  • Weekly instruction on practical tools to help you succeed in all areas of your life.
  • Professional Materials to walk you through a systematic Life Planning Process.
  • Time each week to disconnect from your busy life and focus on yourself and what you want out of life.
  • Your own personal Life Plan, created by you with practical steps to move forward and make it happen!
  • The number of participants is limited and the session is filling up fast! Don’t delay, Jen would love to see you in October!

St. Charles Community College – Learn for Life
Life Planning: Creating a Road Map for Your Life
Tuesdays 6:30-8:30pm
October 22 – November 12
Investment of: $75.00

Click on this link to start the registration process.


Pre-goal-attainment positive affect…in other words, ENJOY NOW! I am enjoying reading Gretchen Rubin’s book The Happiness Project. It is her story of defining happiness for herself and figuring out what that looks like in her life. The term pre-goal-attainment positive affect made me giggle. It sounds like the latest discovered disease. But as I continued to read, it was a great reminder for me. There is a fallacy called “arrival fallacy” which is the belief that when you arrive at a certain destination, you’ll be happy. I love to obtain goals, to put a check-mark on the box, but so many times I forget to enjoy the journey (pre-goal-attainment positive affect).

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This subject hits home right now. John and I are in the midst of some pretty hefty financial goals (debt reduction, savings, etc.). The goals we have set are the right ones for where we are in life and to get us to where we want to be in the long-term. But I WANT and I NEED! But I CAN’T HAVE right now and that makes me cranky at times. What I have to remember is: * We are doing the RIGHT thing * I will eventually get some of the things on my WANT list * Instead of being cranky about it, I need to find enjoyment in where I am right now. Are you working towards something that is hard, but worth it? If not, should you be? What should that goal be? If you set a goal, and you are willing to be uncomfortable for a short time, you will see dividends for the long-term. Find ways to have fun even when you are working hard on your goals! Treat yourself to some Pre-Goal-Attainment Positive Affect!

Side note: If you know you need to move forward in some areas of your life, but you are not sure where to start. I am teaching a great class at St. Charles Community College starting October 22nd for 4 weeks. It’s called Life Planning: Create A Road Map for Your Life. Here is the link for registration! I would love for you to join me! If you do not live in the St. Louis area, but would be interested in the class, let me know. We are developing the curriculum to bring the class as an interactive on-line webinar in the future!

-Coach Jen